Monday, August 27, 2007
Best with Friends
There's no doubt about it, the ingredients for happiness includes good relationships. If I am with my TRUE (italics mine) friend I am happy, alert, cheerful and motivated.
When I interact with them my attention is to them and not to me. I fought depression by talking to them and their conversation stimulates me.
It is very hard to look for a good friend nowadays. From my experience you can say you have real friends if:
1. We have mutual benefits.. I endorse you to the next job and you invite me to a birthday party.
2. Relationship without exploitation . I am truthful to you and you are truthful to me. We never take advantage of each other.
3. Are not static . Meaning you are a friend all the way and not only when you have an influence, money or even power. If you are invited by a friend to attend an event even though you are far away the relationship is not static.
4. Provide emotional and intellectual stimulation . Meaning I can cry, laugh and frown without feeling embarrassed. We can talk a lot of things and love our differences. Silence to us is a mortal sin.
I remember a Chinese proverb that says:
If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day, go fishing.
If you want happiness for a month, get married.
If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune.
IF YOU WANT HAPPINESS FOR A LIFETIME, HELP SOMEONE ELSE.